Posts by Dane Girl

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changing

by lancelink in

i have realized lately that i have come to terms in a way regarding the beliefs of the jw's.

for over thirty years, i did my best to be a productive, supporting member of the congregation.

within the last three years there have been a number of deaths in my family.

I've been DFd now for 13 years and am still experiencing the changing and outgrowing of the JW indoctrinization. Even when I thought I had completely let go of the psychological hold the org had on me, I was proven wrong many times. The love of my partner (who in fact was rather tough on me in regards to how much I had not moved on), having an excellent therapist over the last 4 years and getting a college education has been the key for me. Since I was raised into the JW org with a father who was an elder (emphasis on was), my road was (and still can be) very tough. For others, it can be easier, however, the org works so quickly on people that even a short amount of time with them can be extrememly damaging. A wide range of emotions need to be delt with, which is necessary in healing. However, the regret, sadness, anger and the whole lot of feelings can be a hindrance in moving forward with ones life. Hang in there and be strong!

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Letter of Disassociation

by Maryjane in

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i walked away from the jw religion nearly 9 years ago after "waking up" to the lies & mind games.

since then i've learned the full extent of the manipulation (thanks to websites such as this & the coc book)and have successfully overcome the emotional & spiritual crisis that i experienced the first few years after my departure.

i can say that i am at a place in my life now where i am happy, spiritually fulfilled and religion-free!

Dane Girl

Good work, Maryjane. Writing a letter because one cares what they think only strengthens the JW's power. I've been soooo tempted to do so myself when my sister un-invited me to her wedding based on the elder's (that was giving her wedding talk) expression of would-be disdain over my presence. The anger I felt was uncomparable. In the end, I am so glad that I did not follow through. Hang in there.